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Best Valentine's Day Gift Ideas Based on the 5 Love Languages Under $40/Pax

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In three weeks time, we will be celebrating Valentine’s Day (14 Feb 2021): an occasion where couples all over the world would typically exchange chocolate, flowers and gifts to express their love for each other.

But, I can imagine this day can get quite stressful as well.

On top of having to plan a unique date, you will want to get the perfect gift for your special someone.

Source: Community | Giphy

But, if you are at a loss about what to get your partner, choosing a highly personalised gift based on their love language can really help you take the guesswork out of giving.

As such, we have consulted someone who knows a thing or two about love and relationships.

We are talking about speaker, counsellor and author Dr Gary Chapman who wrote the bestselling Five Love Languages® series of books.

These books have been translated into 50 different languages and more than 12 million copies were sold worldwide.

Based on his work, we have put together this list of Valentine’s Day gift ideas for each of the five love languages so you can express your love for your partner in a way that speaks to them.

Also, we have kept the gift ideas to under $40 so you won’t have to tear a hole in your wallet this Valentine’s Day for the gift.

Do note that the price is just a suggestion, you are free to use the principles of the gift idea and spend more on your gift if your budget allows for it.

TL;DR: Valentine Gift Guide (2021) Based on The Five Love Languages

Love LanguageGift Idea ExamplePrice/Pax
Acts of ServicePrepare a Romantic Meal and let your partner take the day off$18.80
Receiving GiftsThoughtful and meaningful gift<$30
Physical TouchAxe throwing or Ice Skating session$18 - $22
Quality TimeRomantic movie night at home$16
Words of AffirmationHandwritten card, notes and personalised playlist$17

Logos in artwork from Lake Pointe Church.

What Are The Five Love Languages

Although there are studies that suggest that the Five Love Languages theory is psychometrically valid; there isn’t a lot of hard scientific research behind it per se.

However, Dr Chapman has come up with his theory based on his numerous years of work and research as a relationship counsellor.

As mentioned, the book is also widely popular and very well received by people all around the world.

Source: Multi-Language Media | Five Love Languages in French

To put it simply, Dr Chapman is presenting the idea that people prefer to receive love in different ways:

  • Acts of Service: doing chores around the house and helping your partner run errands to ease the burdens of responsibility.
  • Receiving Gifts: not necessarily about how much the gift costs but the love and thought behind it.

  • Physical Touch: not limited to sex, hugs, cuddling, holding hands and innocent touches are important too,

  • Quality Time: spending more time with them, giving them your undivided attention, and being present (i.e. not using your phone) when you spend time with them,

  • Words of Affirmation: genuine compliments, words like ‘i love you’ and telling your partner you appreciate them.

According to Dr Chapman, most people have one main and one minor love language and tend to naturally give love based on their main one.

But, essentially what he is trying to say is that people are more receptive to certain love languages; with one love language that will resonate with them the most.

For some people, acts of service are important – this means that it will mean the world to them if you would go out of your way to cook for them or help them run an errand. Whereas other things like compliments (words of affirmation) are less valued by them.

This theory is fine at all but the more important part is the application. You will need to find out which love language your partner ‘speaks’ and give them the love in that manner as they value it more.

Valentine’s Day Gifts for Her and Valentine’s Day Gifts for Him

Maybe your partner loves quality time but you prefer physical touch. You need to know that your partner spending time to plan a wonderful date and spending quality time with you is comparable to you being hugged and cuddled.

Also, an important thing to take note of is that the ‘love’ Dr Chapman is not confined to romantic love. It extends to receiving loving gestures of any kind between friends and family as well.

No matter the relationship, some loving gestures are more valuable to you compared to other people.  

Liao gai (understand)?

P.S. If you don’t know your partner’s love language, send them this quiz under the guise of ‘getting to know them better’ to find out!

Now le’s move on to how to apply this theory to gift ideas for Valentine’s Day.

1. Acts of Service Love Language

If your partner values Acts of Service the most, you need to know that letting your partner know that you are with them and are partnered with them.

This means doing things like running errands for them, making a meal and serving them.

This could mean giving things like:

  • Creating a coupon book with vouchers that can be redeemed for things like:
    • A day off. This means doing something like doing all of your partner’s share of the chores for that day so your partner has free time to do whatever.
    • Help with a project.
    • A massage.

Prepare a Meal

Alternatively, you could surprise your partner with breakfast in bed and let him/her relax and have the whole day off without being disturbed.

For example, you could follow this recipe for Poached Eggs with Parmesan and Smoked Salmon Toasts.

Source: Tina Rupp | Food and Wine


The ingredients are not too expensive either. You will need:

  • Four 1/2-inch-thick slices of sourdough bread, each slice cut into four 4-by-1/2-inch rectangles (~$4 – $8 per loaf).
  • Extra-virgin olive oil, for brushing ($7.60 for a 500ml bottle or about $0.07 cents for the amount needed)
  • 32g freshly grated Parmesan (~$5 for 150g)
  • 57g thinly sliced smoked salmon, cut into 8 long strips ($6.95 for 75g)
  • 4 large eggs (~$0.80 for 4 eggs)

Total Cost: $18.80

2. Receiving Gifts Love Language

This one is not as simple as it seems.

To get this right, the main thing your partner wants is a meaningful gift that shows your thoughtfulness, preferably with a reason behind why the gift is special.

You will also need to make your partner feel like they are your number one priority and speak purposefully about the gift.

Here are some meaningful gifts under $30 you can consider for Valentine’s Day to get you started!

Total Cost: $30 

3. Physical Touch Love Language

At the risk of sounding a bit old, I think of this song when it comes to this love language:

Source: Universal Music Group

If your partner values physical touch, you could always go on a Valentine’s Day date where you there can be quite a bit of physical contact:

  • Axe Throwing Experience at Axe Factor ($22/pax for couple bundle on Klook): you can put your arms around your partner under the guise of helping him/her adjust their throwing position.
  • Ice Skating ($18/pax with skate boots rental): You can hold hands while gliding around the rink like lovebirds.
  • And more…

Total Cost: $18 – $22

4. Quality Time Love Langauge

This one is more straightforward. Find out or ask your spouse what kind of activity they really enjoy and do it with them.

Source: Mr D | Giphy

This does not mean you need to go out. Instead, you can watch a romantic or memorable movie at home that you both enjoy and pair it with some gourmet popcorn ($32).

This will allow you and your partner an opportunity to reminisce about the movie and talk about how the movie’s romance is similar to yours.

Plus points if you take part in a hobby that your partner really loves and you don’t quite understand.

They will appreciate that you are making the effort to learn.

For example, if your partner likes gaming, you can book a trip to one of them gaming cafes and spend time gaming there.

Alternatively, if your partner likes Yoga, you could book a couple’s yoga class (~$30 pax).

The important thing here to take note of is that you need space for uninterrupted conversations. One-on-one time is critical.

Total Cost For Movie: $32

5. Words of Affirmation Love Language

Last but not least we have words of affirmation.

Source: Giphy

This love language is more than just giving your partner compliments.

You will instead need to listen actively to build your partner up with heartfelt words that encourage, affirm, and show your appreciation.

You could give your partner a nice handwritten card (~$5) and list down all the things you treasure about them.

You could also sneak in handwritten love notes in their bag to discover (~$2). This is to remind them of how much you love them.

In addition, you could buy your partner a Spotify subscription ($9.90 a month) for Valentine’s Day and create a personalised playlist of the songs that remind you of your partner.

Total Cost: $17

Closing Thoughts

Also, you are not limited to one love language.

For example, if your partner’s main love language is quality time and their secondary love language is acts of service, quality time, you could cook for your partner and set up that romantic movie date!

The possibilities are endless.

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About Joel Koh
History student turned writer at Seedly. Before you ask, not a teacher. My time as a history student has equipped me with the skills to evaluate the impact societal development has on financial and nonfinancial events.
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